2 Corinthians 6:14-16a
Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever? Or what agreement has the temple of God with idols?
While this passage is used to keep believers from marrying unbelievers I feel it has a deeper meaning. The things being compared are not just opposites, they directly oppose one another. Righteousness and lawlessness are in compete conflict with each other. As carriers of the glory of God we are to live and be different than the world. Light and darkness are in direct conflict with each other. This doesn’t mean not to associate with the world, but to be careful what you align yourself with in this world.
A simplified definition of a soul tie is connecting your soul another person. Three ways this is accomplished is through vows, close relationships and sexual intimacy. Not all soul ties are bad but once you have made an ungodly soul tie, that connection can bring negative things into your life. The only way to be free from it is to break it. Often times we don’t even realize we have made that connection.
Marriage is a vow to another person. While it is a soul tie, it isn’t an ungodly tie. You connect yourself to another human for the rest of your life. Becoming one flesh through the vow and through intercourse was God’s original design for us. A couple becomes one flesh and work in harmony. What one goes through in the union, the other does as well. We rarely go into marriage without some sort of baggage. Your spouses problems also become yours and you work through them together.
An ungodly example of this is when you make vows to others that do not line up with the word of God, or His character. Vowing to follow someone for the rest of your life, or to be loyal to that person regardless of what comes can be an ungodly soul tie.
We see in 1 Samuel 18 where Johnathan and David were knit together. Johnathan loved David as himself. He gave him his clothes and his armor so that David would be protected. Johnathan also made a covenant with David because he loved him so much. We all have friends that we love but how many are we willing to give our lives up for as Johnathan was. Those close relationships create a tie between you and the other person. I would examine and prayerfully consider those to see if they line up with God. If they don’t then it may be time to sever that tie.
Sexual relationships are probably the most well known type of ungodly soul tie. 1 Corinthians 6:16 describes this in relation to an ungodly soul tie. It says that don’t you know that joining yourself to a prostitute makes you one flesh with them? Many people go around having casual sexual relationships with other without realizing they are connecting their soul to that person forever. Before I came to Christ I was one of those. Out of brokenness, tying to fill a hole and soothe a wound I used those types of relationships to try to alleviate the pain. I spent years breaking those soul ties!
Another way to connect your soul to another person in this way is through sexual gratification using pornography. This used to be primarily a man’s problem but in recent years women have begun catching up to them. People are just now beginning to understand the devastating affects of pornography on marriages and lives. Many are replacing their real connections with a fantasy and women are fed up with trying to live up to something that isn’t even obtainable. I speak from the woman’s point of view because I have seen first hand the affects of pornography on marriages. (I’m sure there are men who are dealing with the same thing.) Once you connect your soul to another person in this way, you carry their problems as well as your own.
The simplest answer is break them. But what does that look like? How does that work? As with anything your trying to get free from, God has the solution.
- Be Free
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